Well this is my first blog for 2016 and I wish all readers a prosperous and productive New Year! I’m feeling high, forty and very fitabulous 🙂 As 2016 has already started with a bang for me, I have a new consultancy contract and an additional Boxercise class, Yayyyy, feel free to celebrate with me – pop the champers and cheers!
Recently I have been reflecting on my new expressed status ‘Alpha Female’, which is actually the sub-name of my blog in case you hadn’t noticed. I don’t know where this self-label arose from, but I really do feel very much like an Alpha female and have been walking around expressing it to everyone and anyone since my recent epiphany. Whereas the term ‘independent woman’ has gone down like a dirty word and almost indicates a woman who is actually up her own arse, doesn’t need anything or anyone can-do-it-all-on-my-own attitude! Rolls necks, click fingers and cuts eye type of woman. Not every female wants to really associate with this and I’m certainly NOT that type! (Although my friends may beg to differ.)
The Alpha female just seems like a cut above the ‘independent woman’ label, like it’s just a ‘given’ that she can pay her own rent, but actually she also doesn’t mind receiving support of any kind. So I have been on the lookout for women who I think maybe stong Alpha female types or at least have that role such as The Queen, Oprah Winfrey.
But what is an Alpha female?
My research suggests that Alpha females are strong, confident, sexy (that’s what is said) know what they want and go for it. So far so good… Oh wait the downside… it suggest they can be controlling, don’t like to ask for help, can be intimidating and non-emotional. So I definitely must be a New and Improved version. I’ll shall add humility and modesty to the list thank you!
But when and why do I feel I am a (New & Improved) Alpha female ?
I believe I realised I was Alpha (lol) when I discovered a new found sense of confidence, something that came around the 40 age mark, when I felt at peace with who I was and what I wanted. Where the need to receive approval or acceptance no longer became an issue for me. Where I became unapologetically ‘me’ knowing that I was no longer afraid to be, do, seek or have what I required in order to fulfil my own needs and wants. Over and above my family, friends, relationships, career or life situation. It was almost a liberated, empowering, enlightened Zen moment! As if I had just discovered myself, I also didn’t feel like I had to become scary, aggressive or intimidating in order to achieve this. A balance I had previously struggled with and found that I was able to express my true wants and needs femininely when required but was also unafraid to become assertive and dominant (and sometimes straight-up ghetto!).
But I wonder what of the Alpha female’s partner such as Prince Philip, Steadman?! Lol Are they Beta males? Don’t get me wrong, I am Alpha and an independent siStar! (*clicks fingers) but I also need help, support, love nurturing and I am not afraid to ask for it (anymore). Plus I don’t mind men providing compliments or a bit of chivalry and the more a male energy can bring to the table in terms of supporting me and my endeavours the more I am able and willing to meet them femininely.
So do I require a Beta male? In fact what is that? Is that a lesser male? – less in terms of what?!
Observing the Alpha females and their partners in my circle, I see that their males do not mind being in the background to their powerful females who usually have high profile or public role. They are quietly confident, supportive and nurturing. I believe this saying also holds true “behind every great Alpha woman is a supporting Beta man”. A male who pushes their female to be her best and doesn’t feel belittled in the process.
So while I basks in the full wonder of my Alpha female status I will await my Beta but strong male to stand beside me or behind or wherever he wants to stand as I’m not controlling him!!! I am happy to enjoy fulfilling all of my dreams and aspirations solo in the meantime. Although look forward to the Alpha meet Beta singles night.
I also believe Alpha females are on the rise (I suspect my daughter is definitely one!) I hope that more females relish their goals, inner confidence and ambition knowing it doesn’t make them a ‘bitch’ or any other negative trait but a female with a strong sense of confidence, self-esteem, worth and charm.
Be You – Alpha, Beta or somewhere in between!
New book coming out soon! Lol
Naomi
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MoorYoni.com 
Amazing words Ms Alpha
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